Monday, April 23, 2012

REFERRAL!!!! A Beautiful Referral!

Gosh, it has been over a year since I have written on this blog. I had to figure out where on the web it was located. Now, I look at the pictures of my little family at the top of this blog and my children look so young. In only a year they have seemingly grown up.
On Thursday April 19, we accepted the referral of a beautiful little 4 year old girl. We are over the moon with excitement and grateful that God doesn't give up (like we did)!
I have so many thoughts and as thinking goes, it is sometimes random. I am convicted that we really did give up. We, in our minds, had kinda thought that maybe we heard the Lord wrong. And then we thought that maybe we should do foster care or foster to adopt . . . and all of those thoughts were so REAL and so okay. I mean a kid is a kid and they all need families. But that is not what God told us. As we looked back we knew there was a moment when God said "do this thing." And that 'thing' was adopt from Ethiopia. If we hadn't heard that I promise you we wouldn't have gone through all of that paperwork! But as time went on and Ethiopian adoptions slowed, we just thought it wouldn't happen. And we were seriously on the verge of getting out of the Ethiopian program and pursuing foster to adopt. Even after we got the referral we went to an information meeting for foster care. And we were suddenly in extreme turmoil. The kind of turmoil where you think there will never be a resolution. The kind of turmoil where you just want to forget the whole grand idea, because suddenly it has become a real big mess. But God in his patience and kindness guided us back to what was true through the wise counsel of very good friends. The council: pray against the fear and when the fear is gone, what is left? And that is what we did  . . . and the purest peace sank onto our hearts for a whole day. It felt miraculous. What was true then was what was true from the beginning: God told us to adopt from Ethiopia, he didn't ever change his mind and he didn't ever tell us to change ours. And once the truth rose to the top, a sweet excitement and passion for this little life emerged. And it has grown.
We know we are crazy. We know we are old. We know that we will be in our 60's when she is 20. We know that we will be mistaken for her grandparents (thank God for highlights). We know it will be hard, although we have no idea how hard. We know we will be so tired. I know I will be driving this ugly 1993 Suburban around forever. We know there will great joy, great pain and pink where there is no pink. We know there will be little girl squeals and girly hormones. But when you are supposed to do something, you just do it. I mean, you can live in fear forever. You can live in fear and get to the end of your life and think "why didn't I just go for it?" And then it's too late. I don't know, I guess I don't want to live like that. Deep down we want to live by faith. And as another friend reminded me today, "Be strong and courageous, do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go." And the Lord means what he says.
We covet your prayers as we enter this unknown territory.


  1. Lydia, I am so excited for you! What a blessing you will be to a sweet little girl! A friend reminded me last week that God only operates on Plan A ~ His plan for you is right on time. I'll be praying and can't wait to see what happens.
    Love, Kyndal

  2. KAREN UNDERWOOD HOPKNSApril 24, 2012 at 12:01 AM

    Lydia, What a beautifully written message. I am thrilled for you and your family, to start this new chapter of your lives together. What God's blessings all of you will be to each other. Girls are precious and so much fun to be around.

  3. This is our exact testimony of getting our little Chloe from China! So excited for you! We even went thru all of the 6 week Foster/Adopt training after being told we would never see Chloe's file from our agency.... Our hearts ached for her every class we went to. In God's time, He opened her file up for us. She was chosen by Him for us...and your little girl has been chosen for you!
    Nicci Cox

  4. How exciting!!! So happy for you. What a blessing from God for both you and your new daughter! Congratulations!

  5. How proud I am of both of you for listening to our God. He will never leave you to figure it out on your own. He will always continue to guide you when you trust Him. I remember when I was so blessed the evening you had Gracey with the most wonderful experience of sharing her birth and homegoing all in a matter of hours. Our tears, joy and our hearts breaking but God's presence so evident. I am soooo happy you are getting your little girl to share such love that all of you have to give her. Can't wait to meet her. Love you all soooo much. Barbara & Keith Bobo

  6. Lydia and Greg - I am so overjoyed for you!! What an incredible blessing. Who cares about age?! Anyway, you two look younger than you are. This little girl is going to keep you young, too. Congrats! Julie

  7. Hey Chicha! Stop with the "ld" crap! you're freaking me out!! I'm older with a younger! You are going to be fabulous parents to this amazing girl and I want to hear more more more!!!